USE TIME WISELY
- Joyce Bezusko
- Jan 28
- 2 min read
When I was a kid, there was a column on the report card to be graded that said:
“USES TIME WISELY.”
I wish I had one of those cards today. I was always a high achiever in that category.
Who knew what this would lead to in my adult life, but as a mature woman, I believe it has now come to light.
Have you ever noticed how we women multi-task?
I guess it’s just in our “jeans.” My mom always used to say to me, “Honey, when your head hits the pillow, you must die.”
She was pretty much right.
A few good hours of sleep and by 2 a.m., it was time for the mind to kick into high gear again. The body didn’t want any part of it, but the mind is always in control.
So there I was lying in bed, wide awake, going over what I needed to accomplish that day in order to feel I was worthy.
Women are just eternal reservoirs of energy. You want to know why? Because we feel we have to be.
We can talk to a friend on the phone, do laundry, prepare dinner, respond to emails, open snail mail, and all this after eight hours on the job.
How’s that possible?
Women are people pleasers, thinkers and planners. That’s also why we can put dinner on the table with all things coming together at one time.
Again, this shows our strength; but what do we do with it?
We resort to our insecure, guilty thoughts. Along with our ability to multi-task, I think self-doubt and fear of failure are high on the list of “built-ins.” We fail, all right.
We fail to realize just how much support we have to offer each other, and the rest of the world, for that matter.
I feel fear plays a huge role in our always wanting to please.
I once heard Carol Burnett say it took her a long time to realize “No” was a complete sentence.
How profound!
Perhaps we wouldn’t have to stretch ourselves so thin if we could learn to delegate or just say no a little more often.
Instead, we all want to be Superwoman. We don’t want to disappoint anyone. We feel guilty asking someone else to help or even take on a task themselves.
Can it be that this runs even deeper than wanting to be everything for everyone?
What about the “fear factor” again?
Are we afraid of what someone might think of us if we don’t do it all?
I try now to allow myself the freedom to ask why I have or have not done something.
Remember when we were children we always asked the question “Why?” Perhaps it was just plain old curiosity, but the fact remains we wanted an answer that made sense to us at the time.
I’m not advocating for all women to throw up their hands and go on strike,
but I am saying what works for me.
I now ask myself, “Why?”
Remember to keep your dreams high and your spirit higher!
By Joyce Bezusko . First Published in Island Gals Magazine . 2011 . Volume 1 . Issue 2
